Get
prepared for dating. If you really want to succeed in the dating game, decide
who you are looking for, do your research and be ready to commit to dating.
Half heartedness won't work. Also prepare for some let downs along the way
but don't take dating too seriously either.
Get
your act together. Begin a regime of looking your best. Join a gym, read
health magazines, get fit and start a diet. Get your hair cut or styled
and begin a new regime of good grooming or beauty treatment. Though it will
not find you a date in itself, you will feel a million times more confident
about yourself.
Go
shopping and treat yourself to new clothes and even a whole new look. Get
your image right, one that you can manage and live with, but one that flatters
you. Don't go overboard and look like someone you are not but maybe its
time to throw out those tired jeans, old sweaters or cardigans and spruce
yourself up. People appreciate appearance.
Have
a good think about what your dating goals are and timescales. Do you see
yourself married within 2 years? If you do then approach dating accordingly.
If you are more laid back and don't take dating too seriously then ask yourself
some honest questions about why you are dating and what you hope to achieve.
If it is purely sex then ask yourself if you are about to be honest with
those you hope to date.
Sort
out your confidence levels in advance. By following the first four tips
you will feel better and be more focused. Do all the things that will boost
your confidence from avoiding negative friends (often the married ones)
to attending the right kind of social functions. Couples at dinner parties
in suburbia is not necessarily where you need to be right now.
Choose
those you have a good chance of dating, don't aim low but do aim realistically.
In other words, your dating is based on the whole package you present as
well as just your personality. If you are looking for a glamour girl or
boy and want to date someone trendy and gorgeous then good for you, but
be prepared and be realistic about your chances.
Work
out in advance where in your neighborhood you are likely to meet people
and join clubs, societies, sports events, drama groups, anything where you
are likely to meet potential partners. The kind of partners you are looking
for. I know its a cliché but you will not meet people by staying
indoors.
Take
time off from dating occasionally if its not going well or causing dating
fatigue. Dating is an ongoing process and so recharging the batteries and
keeping the confidence and optimism levels high is an absolute must. So
date in phases if necessary.
Enjoy
dating for what it is, dating. It is meeting people and socializing and
spending time in the company of stimulating individuals who may or may not
bring you a sparkle. The fact is, most people are interesting and whilst
you may not be out there looking for new friends, you may well find one
or two fabulous people along the way.
Never
ever make yourself too available. People like mystery and enigma and the
thrill of the chase when dating. In keeping with this do not sleep with
your dates early on if you want them to progress, so keep sex until later.
The longer a person is made to chase and fall for you within reason, the
more likely that love may blossom. Peak too early and you have little left
to offer and emotions may never have had the time to develop.
Do
Join a quality Internet dating agency for free and do post a photo profile
if possible. Take your time and check your mail occasionally. Even if you
never date online at least it will boost your confidence and spirits and
allow you to Practise your opening lines and chat up skills. Internet dating
is fun and secure and introduces you to the world of dating safely and gently.
Consider the following
instructions to stay safe, yet create a SURE impression on the person you
wanna date with :
Always trust your instinct, after all it has got you this far in life already.
Take your time and view plenty of personal ads first.
Do not publish your phone number or email address in personal ads.
Don't take everything at face value.
Do ask lots of questions when chatting.
Ensure you feel comfortable at all times whoever you are chatting with.
If someone is abusive to you, block them straight away.
Don't provide your home or work address to anyone you have not met.
Before agreeing to a date, check that you know as much as possible
- Don't allow yourself to be talked into anything,
whatsoever! You are the one in charge.
Also consider the following:
Take your time to get to know someone. Don't be rushed.
A patient person will be happy to wait until you are ready to meet.
Make sure you see plenty of photos if possible of the person you make friends
with.
Ask your date to leave a message in your voicemail
box before hand if possible.
Chat on the phone for a while before arranging
a date, get to know each other.
Always meet in a public place that is well
known and convenient to you.
Always tell a good friend where you are going,
and who you are meeting.
If possible phone your friend during the date
to confirm all is fine.
And perhaps consider
these points too:
Always carry a cellular
phone on a date if you have one.
Lunchtimes are good for
dating, convenient, and they have a time limit.
Always make your own
travel arrangements on a date initially.
Do not accept a lift
home on the first date or reveal your address.
If travelling far, organize
your own accommodation and confirm it.
Ensure you have as much
information about your date as possible.
Keep your first date
to a time limit so that you have an "exit" point.
Don't feel you owe it
to someone to meet them, you do not!
When we think of safe dating
by sets of rules like this it can all get pretty silly and scary but the
fact is that we are introducing ourselves to strangers without the company
of friends. It will always be a wise choice to have a friend close by even
if they are sitting at a nearby table. But whatever you decide is best for
you, keep your wits about you and enjoy your date !!!
Positive Thoughts About
Dating : How to boost up your confidence...
Remember the good times and work out what you
learned.
Remember what it felt like to be in love.
Think of the lessons you have learned from
your relationships.
Decide what you like and what you don't from
these memories.
Realize that there is nothing wrong to use
past relationships as a basis for positive energy.
Learn to look forward from the past.
Forget trying to mentally fix past relationships
- they're over.
Do you want to elevate yourself and
your personality to others when dating? Try the following. This would SURELY
assist you in being a successful dater :
Be nice to all the people you meet.
Meet as many people as you can.
Learn to be sociable and willing.
Learn to smile at people naturally.
Be kind and considerate and generous.
Learn to listen and be open minded.
Lean to like yourself.
Change the things you don't like about yourself.
Give yourself a makeover and be ruthless if
necessary.
Don't stay indoors unless necessary.
Learn about what makes people popular and copy
their methods.
Try to be happy and content with who you are
as a person.
Remove negative aspects and influences in your
life permanently.
Set attainable goals for yourself.
have a mental image of how you see yourself
in 3 years time and work towards it every day.
Don't suffer fools gladly though. You are not
a fool either.
Dating Etiquettes
Dating should always be fun and it is as much your responsibility to ensure
it is. When you are dating ensure that you do everything you can to make
the meeting enjoyable.
Eye
contact is crucial when dating so it is good etiquette to provide as much
attention as possible to your date. They should feel that they are the only
person in the room. If you use the date as an excuse for general partying
you failed.
You
will be courteous and complimentary. Your date has made an effort for you
and your personal opinions are not welcome at this stage.
As
a man you must never talk to a woman's breasts. They hate it. Being appreciated
for her feminine charms is one thing, but talking to her breasts is down
right rude and is not acceptable, so hold her gaze throughout.
You
will always turn up for a date unless you have given enough time for it
to be canceled. Standing someone up is not acceptable adult behavior, and
shows contempt for your prospective date by wasting their time. This kind
of arrogance is detestable.
You
will always turn up on time and not keep your date waiting. If the transport
is unreliable set off in good time. Being punctual shows respect for your
date and illustrates how organized you are.
You
will not be flash or extravagant. These are the domain of the classless
rich who impress with their wealth. It shows no taste whatsoever to throw
your credit card about and entertain with champagne unless you are simply
after cheap thrills.
Smoking
and drinking copious amounts on dates are no good unless the love of both
is shared by both parties. Smoking in a restaurant will do nothing for your
image and shows crass disregard for others.
You
will not be opinionated or arrogant on a date and you will try to avoid
discussions on politics and religion in the early stages. You may be very
opinionated on certain topics and maybe for good reason but that does not
mean you are right. You will come across badly to your date of you act like
this. Arrogance makes most people feel uncomfortable so avoid at all costs.
You
will never argue or be rude to others on a date, it simply is not acceptable.
You are trying to show your good side so arguing over service charge or
whether the wine is chilled enough will make you look a fool. Arguing with
a waiter is a huge no-no.
You
will be a listener and not talk your date to death, particularly if you
are male. Listening shows interest and the ability to compromise. If your
idea of a date is talking about yourself and your opinions all night then
do the world a favor and stay at home alone.
You
will make an effort to dress well. In this day and age there is absolutely
no excuse to look bad. Poor dress sense shows laziness and will do nothing
to promote you. Furthermore it shows a lack of respect for your date who
has made an effort.
You
will make an effort to be fresh and smell good. I cannot believe I have
to mention hygiene to men (and the odd woman !) so frequently. You should
be shaven, bathed and smell very good. It costs nothing except a bottle
of good quality cologne and some shower gel.
You
will never swear and use uncouth language as you will come across as an
idiot. Leave street talk to later. If you want to find the girl of your
dreams, then treat her with respect. Women are able to use strong language
in more effective subtle ways but even so, leave it on the first date if
possible.
Never
ever will you discuss your ex dates or how many people you have slept with.
This is the domain of enigma. As a man, you will not be encouraged to discuss
sex however hard she tries to provoke you. Ignore this message at your peril
as I know what I am talking about. The longer you sustain the mystery the
better your chances.
If
you don't like your date then don't be quick to give them a hard time. They
are human beings like you and they deserve always to be treated with respect.
You can and will have a good time with someone you are not attracted to,
so treating someone badly because they are not your type is not acceptable
behavior. Rudeness is not allowed.
You
will never tell lies on a date either to get someone into bed or to promote
yourself because you WILL get found out. Maybe not now but probably when
it is too late. Tell the truth or avoid a subject if necessary.
As
a man you will pay the bill on the first date without question and you will
not discuss money openly at this stage. Money discussions are crass and
lack sophistication.
You
will ensure your date feels comfortable at all times and encourage their
feelings of comfort if you detect any signals of being uncomfortable. You
will also ensure that your date gets home safely in a cab etc.
You
will never try and sleep with your date on the first occasion but any method.
Sex comes later my friend, no arguments. If you do sleep with them on the
first date, the chances are it is over before it began.
You
will make sure you are as entertaining and witty as possible and will not
reply on alcohol to see you through. Getting wasted on a date shows no respect
whatsoever and makes a mockery of the whole situation.
You
will call when you promise to call and not keep someone hanging on. If you
don't like your date then don't falsely promise anything or leave the door
open. Again this shows a great disrespect for your date if you do. Waiting
for the phone to ring has long term repercussions.
And
finally, you will NEVER date and pretend to be single when you are not.
The line to your companion late in the evening "well I am kind of seeing
someone" makes me personally seethe. Go dating when you are single
and not until.
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